Many babies and children have what is known by child development experts as a 'transitional object'. This might be a cuddly toy, blanket or another item that your child becomes attached to. Your family might call them loveys, cuddlys, or something different.
Transitional objects provide reassurance and comfort to our little ones, especially during times of change, such as when starting at a new setting or moving house. They are a really important part of their emotional support system and play a role in self-regulation.
More about transitional objects and why are they so important?
As children begin to explore new environments and meet new people, the familiarity of a transitional object can provide reassurance and boost confidence.
Transitional objects can reduce anxiety, providing some all important continuity. They can also assist with sleep
In the majority of cases, children choose their own transitional object - and it might not be what you would expect. Some children pick unusual items and they are not always soft and cuddly! Some of the more interesting I have across include a hairbrush, a shoe and, in my son's case, a plastic dinosaur, which remains in his right hand 99% of the time (swimming lessons are interesting!). As long as the item cannot cause harm to your child, this is nothing to worry about.
It can be a big worry when your child becomes very attached to an object. Losing it may be traumatic for your child and very stressful for parents and carers. For this reason, it is a good idea to have a second identical version, just in case.
Some children don't have transitional objects and that is fine too. You can help your child find one, but again, it will be a very personal choice.
In those situations where your child cannot have their transitional object with them, it might help to start a special 'goodbye' ritual, leaving the item somewhere safe. It is important your child knows where it is and that they can have it back later.
By the age of 5, your child might start to show less dependency on their transitional object. However, it is normal to periodically return to the object, even into adolescence, so it is best keep it somewhere safe.
Don't try to remove your child's transitional object. This can cause significant anxiety. Your child's need for the object will naturally diminish when the time is right. It is important to understand that your child's transitional object is so much more to them than just a blanket or soft toy.
I would love to know about your child's transitional object. Pictured is my son's dinosaur, 'T-Rex'. Not very soft to cuddle up to, yet it goes to bed with him every night.
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